Restaurant Etiquette and Mannerisms in the US

Posted On: February 17, 2015

On your next business trip to the US, your American colleague may ask you to join them for dinner. There are many kinds of restaurants that you may be invited to – chain restaurants, local restaurants, diners, sit-down restaurants or fast food restaurants.         

The first thing to keep in mind, especially coming from Kerala is upon entering, look for one of these below signs – seat yourself, or wait to be seated. 

Wait for your Hostess to Seat You
If there is a sign requesting for you to wait to be seated, typically there will be a small desk or small, tall table with a host standing behind it, asking you for your name. He or she will write your name and ask you to wait. Depending on how many people are waiting in line before you, you may be given a beeper (it’s not so common for restaurants to take your mobile number to text you in the US). When your name is called or your beeper rings or lightens up, find the host who will guide you to your table. A different person will be your waiter in most cases. 

These are typical ways we wait for our table in smaller cities. In bigger cities or fancier restaurants, there may be other approaches to wait to be called to be seated at your table. 

Seat Yourself  

If it says to seat yourself, leisurely stroll around and find a table. If it is crowded, do not run and take a table that another person is sitting at (as sometimes happens in Kerala). Wait for another table to open up, so you and your party can sit alone. If by mistake you sit at a table where another patron is sitting, simply apologize and move to another table. It’s important to make eye contact with those around you and be aware of who is around you. If you find some difficulty in finding a table during peak hours, please find a restaurant employee to help you.  

Fast Food 
In most fast food restaurants, you will approach the counter to place your order. Be ware that they will speak very fast, as orders must be given, placed and delivered within short periods of time, like three to five minutes. Be ready with your payment of credit card, debit card or cash. In most fast food restaurants, you will seat yourself. The same rules apply for seating yourself in fast food restaurants as noted above. 

Restaurants with “Bar Sections” 
Some restaurants, like a popular Italian chain, shown in this video, will have a bar section. When entering the restaurant, the host will take your name and you will wait to be seated (that is not shown in the video). If the establishment is very busy, and all the tables are full, but the bar section is empty, the host or hostess may ask you if you’d like to sit or wait in the bar until your table is empty. If you have children with you, it’s ok to pass. If you go into the bar section, you do not need to buy alcohol. The bar section can serve you food just like you would get in the main seating area, but the tables may look different. You may sit at a “bar” with stools, or higher, round tables, or there will be less seating than in the main area of the restaurant. Note, smoking is not always allowed in all bar sections. Please ask the staff before lighting up. 

Scenes of Eating in American Restaurants
The two videos below showcase some scenes of eating in restaurants in the US. 
Ordering Your Food in American Restaurants
The video found here is more of an American English tutorial that will guide you on some common expressions, questions and pleasantries you can use in American restaurants. Also, notice some common phrases or greetings used by wait staff in common eateries. 

American vs. Indian English
Note that the word “hotel” is used in many parts of south India to refer to a restaurant. A hotel in the US is an establishment for sleeping, rarely for eating. Avoid asking your American counterpart to “join you in a hotel” for lunch. This doesn’t have a good meaning in the US culture. Instead ask, “Shall we go out for lunch today?” And, if someone asks where did you eat, don’t say, “We went to the hotel.” Instead, say, “We ate at the restaurant.” Or mention the name of the restaurant, “We went to XXX restaurant today.” 

Open the Door
If you are out with your colleagues or American friends, take the initiative to open the door for them. If anyone is following through the door behind you at a restaurant or in the office, or anywhere, hold the door open for them. This is one behavior that in the US if you do it (with eye contact and a smile), people will be happy, but if it’s not done, it will be problematic. 

Your Experience Eating in Restaurants in the US
Please feel free to share your experiences eating in the US, and tips you have for foreigners or expats visiting the US.
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Related Posts: 
When to say “I’m Sorry” to an American 
Polite Ways to Interrupt (having conversations over the dinner table)  
Can I eat with my hands in the US? 

Photo of man sitting at table by Austin Distel on Unsplash
Original publishing date: 2/15, updated 5.2020



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